Tuesday, February 26, 2008

A poetic posting by an anonymous parent

The WMHSH Blogger writes: "I did not write the following. This was posted as a comment on one of my blog postings a little while ago. It was too good to stay in the background, so I'm blogging it here. It's giving me a lump in my throat and my kid is only a sophomore. If your kids is a senior, please treat yourself to this post. And to the author...whomever you are, thanks."

These next few weeks may be the last times I see my boy lace ‘em up with an organized team. Fourteen years ago we started, not really knowing anything about this marvelous game. He skated out onto the ice as wobbly as can be. Tonight he glides across the ice cutting his edges into the glimmering sheet of white and throwing snow up to the top of the glass with a hockey stop we could only dream about way back when.

He’s worn different jerseys, traveled all over the state and country, in rinks at 6am and 12 midnight. Hotels, motels, sleeping in the van and now the bus – he’s been a real road warrior. He’s had great coaches and some not so great coaches. Some years have been great some not. But all in all, he’s met some many other young men and women that have the same passion and they give their all at game time.

Like you, we’ve spent thousands of dollars on this habit forming game. Sometimes we fell into the marketing and bought the white Gretzky skates, the Nike aluminum sticks, the mini stick games, etc., but we did it for him.

He’s played forward and defense and even played goalie at a tournament and let in 20 goals, but still loved it. Always smiling when he came off the ice, he put reality into our over competitiveness as parents. He simply loved the game.

This week though, it might be different. It may finally hit him that from here on, it might be an occasional lunch skate, Friday night drop in, or maybe adult leagues. How will he deal with it, win or lose after that final game? How will I deal with it?

I only hope we’ve raised him so that his perspective will be positive. He knows that he’s not our only son. Yes, he has a brother that skates too, but over the years he’s had hundred of “brothers” – his team mates. Some have been “best buds”, others have faded into history. But no matter what happens, when and where he ever meets up with these kids again, they have a bond that no one can ever take away. Without a doubt, a hockey team relationships is unique – especially the locker room antics.

Over the next few years, tragedies will occur. Families will split up, some of the parents or even team mates will die and life may longer be as simple as pulling on the old smelly gear. How will my son deal with this? I don’t know, but I do know that through the help of hundreds of other parents, he’s learned so much more about life than I did as a child.

After the last buzzer, God it will be hard. But hugs, tears of disappointment or success will still support the love I have for him and his accomplishments.

Maybe he will continue on. Maybe it’s Juniors, maybe college club hockey, and yes, maybe beer leagues. I may not be able to see him, but I’ll know that if he’s on the ice, he’s in his element and the world is fine.

Son, thanks for the joy you’ve given me over the years, you’ve turned out to be an outstanding young man and I’m sure your future is bright. The only thing I ask of you anymore about this game is: When the time is right, please give back for honor and respect t hose that did the same for you.

Bless all the kids that will lace ‘em up this week and hit the ice in their last games.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

this is why we ALL play the game. there is more passion in a hockey player than there is in any other player of any other sport. hockey has made my life and my famlies life what it is today. i cannot imagine life without this game and all friends i have made while player. hockey really is the greatest game on earth, and everyone who plays it knows why.

Anonymous said...

Last night ended up being my last night. Once I was in the locker room I just broke down. At the moment the final seconds ran out I already felt like there was an empty space in my heart. I knew I was going to miss it, but I did not realize that I would miss it this much already. To all the players that are still in the hunt, dont have any regrets on how you play in the next week or two, leave everything out on the ice.

Anonymous said...

Very well said. As a player growing up and as a parent with a senior player that barely made it through his first round game, i fully understand the many emotions that you write about. Thank you!

vsmiledrummer said...

This says it ALL!!!! Good luck to all teams that are moving on tonight.....and also to those that are not.

Anonymous said...

Great "wisdom " comment ( #2) from a young man well beyond his years in maturity. One must assume your parents & other mentors provided much insight to understand yourself living with positive integrity. Your comments show you will be successful in whatever you select to do in the future. I have interviewed & hired many young men after college & never once been more impressed in what I read from you.

Anonymous said...

Great "wisdom " comment ( #2) from a young man well beyond his years in maturity. One must assume your parents & other mentors provided much insight to understand yourself living with positive integrity. Your comments show you will be successful in whatever you select to do in the future. I have interviewed & hired many young men after college & never once been more impressed in what I read from you.